[Youtube Review][TED] What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

(Recommended)Popular Videos : [TED] What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

 

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(Recommended)Popular Videos : [TED] What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI

 

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Summary Comments : [TED] What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

Ad*********:

1. Good relationships keep us happier and healthier.
2. Quality of close relationships.
3. Good relationships protects our brain.

 

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Playtime Comments : [TED] What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

Le****:

My takeaways:
1. Good relationships keep us happier and healthier 6:03

Le*:

5:50 to skip the background info

Le****:

4:16 who is it tho? JFK?

Fe************:

8:17 relatiinships

De********:

I have never seen TedTalk focused on individual audience like this @2:25
Anyone have noticed before ?

Ta****:

0:22 my love video :X.

Ze*****:

The real lesson starts at 6:13

Rs*******:

"millennials" (0:20) ?? Who/what is he talking about?!

ri************:

5:02 i didn't get the joke

Sh********:

The video starts at 6:15

 

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Top Comments : [TED] What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

Ka***********:

This guy is the best ted talker ever because he is sincere and humble

Ak********:

Conclusion: Good life is built with good relationship.

th***:

I have recently came into realisation that the search for happiness is the real downfall of mainstream ideologies. More specifically the expectation that doing things that are more fun or being less alone grants them more happiness, and that being happy is everything to life. This is untrue, as anything that triggers your brain's reward system also triggers addiction, meaning that for every bit of fun / not alone one receives, one always have to pay it back when they stop doing said "fun" thing / being with someone. In the end, the total happiness always balances out to zero, simply because happiness is relative: there is no happiness without equal and opposite sadness, vise versa.

Thus, true meaning in life shouldn't be to find happiness, since everyone is by principle, equally happy overall. In fact, it should not be to find any kind of feelings, because all feelings are relative. If one is to chase a certain feeling for their whole life, they will achieve a sum of zero in the end. However, by thinking that happiness is their goal, they start to rationalise everything they do with "i felt like it, it feels great(comfortable) so it must be align with my goal, etc" leading to all the irrational behaviors you stated. People start to see rational people as too "analytical" or "logical", lacks "humanity", not fun etc... A typical behavior from someone who thinks feeling great is their life's goal is that criticising them will likely result in anger. This is because they don't understand why you're "trying" to make them "feel bad".

But what if one's goal is different? what if one's goal is to understand one's environment to its fullest, and to interact and change this world as much as possible? This is an unbelievably simple goal that everyone follows when they purchase a video game. To get the most out of the game, one should explore and understand the game world to its fullest, as well as to interact with it and bring as much change in the game as possible. You don't buy a game to make enough money, get comfortable and "live a steady and happy life" do you? Is the world that different from a free limited time access to a very well made video game?

People whose goal in life is this latter option will always be thankful when someone criticises them, because the criticiser is showing them something they might not have realized, hence helping them understand the world more (or have a more realistic understanding of it). They will see people who thinks they're having more "fun", being less "alone" or being more "happy" without understanding that they're merely more addicted and feel sorry for them because they're not spending their limited time experiencing the infinitely deeper plot of the game that is called life.

Nu*******:

To me happiness is being grateful, feeling content. No, I don't want to be rich; I just need being self sufficient. I live in a developing country and see poverty wherever I go. It is such a great feeling sharing with these people. They smile all the time, and very kind and friendly. They make me realize that maybe in life you just need being enough. Enough food, money, have a shelter, etc. It is so simple. I have my ups and much downs, but I can't stop loving life no matter what.

No*******:

being alone doesn't mean we are lonely. to keep up a good close relationship will consume lots of your energy. the solution is to turn inward and not letting others to influence you

Ev*****:

This actually makes a lot of sense. I have often wondered why depression and other mental illnesses seemed more prevelant in the west / developed countries. It didn’t make sense. Having been raised in the second most populous country in the world, where simply living is a lifelong struggle, it seemed very strange that people who had a comfortable life would actually want to kill themselves for ANY reason. But now, this video puts everything in perspective. Many developing Asian, Latin American and African countries may be dirt poor but the social cohesion is still very strong. People may live in poverty and struggle to feed themselves, but they usually don’t suffer from depression in the same numbers or in the same way as lonely people from rich countries do.

This also explains why depression and suicidal tendencies seem to become more common lately... especially amongst young people. In this age of curated life memories, virtual friends and me-me-me culture, I believe, young people are struggling to form authentic and meaningful relationships with others. Attention spans are getting shorter and the fear of missing out is preventing people from forming bonds that are just a result of spending time together sharing conversations, memories, etc. I feel that this is at the root of the modern day explosion in mental health issues and unless we fix the root cause, pills are not going to make them any better.

ge************:

I'm a person who had lives with anxiety and depression in my teenage stage that stopped me on enjoying life, I became a 60 yrs old in a body of 15, I was running from love and relationship till my early 20, now I am in love and it was the first time I felt truly alive, we sleep each night on supporting each other reminding each other how great the other person is, we are best friends who joke around all the time, his happiness, success and health is my priority so is mine to his, we go on adventures try new stuff and make each other life as excited as possible and that is how I found my happiness and smile.

Ka********:

i'm well connected with my cats, is that okay?

Mo****:

Guess I'll just die earlier then

Ju*********:

Replacing screen time with people time. YES!

Mo***************:

To those who are saying they are alone and this video makes them sad, read this. Being alone and being lonely are two very different things.

Alone: having no one else present; on one's own.
Lonely: sad because one has no friends or company.

If you're happy or satisfied by being alone then you are not affected by these claims. You're not lonely and enjoy being by yourself there is nothing wrong with it :)

Also if you use to be like myself and you stress out that you may not be able to make friends or be in new relationships in the future, don't. Even if you think you're the most unapproachable human in the universe there is someone who will want your presence.

:)

Ly****:

A young fisherman is singing to his kids while sitting on the dock. A business man comes by and sees a half empty bucket of fish. He goes to the fisher and says “why aren’t you fishing?” The young man says “I’ve fished enough to feed my family”. The business man says “you should fish more”. The young man says “for what?” The older man says “so you can buy a bigger boat and catch more fish”. The young fisher says “then what?”. The older man says “so you can have enough money to start a company” “then what?” Says the young man. “Then you can have enough money to have a huge business”. Again the young man says “then what?” The older man replies “then you can retire and enjoy life by the sea with your children” the young man says “what do you think I’m doing now?” And resumes his singing.

Gr***********:

This study is a reminder that social connection is critical to our physical and emotional health. It's particularly important during this Covid-19 pandemic.

wi*****************:

My notes:
Have good relationships
Find playmates instead of workmates

기수*:

I definitely learned that how important being in a good relationship is. Even though it's difficult to get.

An**********:

Women in the audience are like"Why only men?"

J*:

It’s even more sad for people who don’t have a good relationship
It’s frustrating or demotivating to know a good life is having a good relationship!

Do******:

This is so true. Here in Japan we have one of the highest suicide rates. We are working 24-7 to chasing money, we are on our phones and computers watching internet, there’s very little socializing and no real connection with anybody. Our society has become sick and lost.

Ph********:

"The best change I ever made in my life was cutting off all of the toxic and negative people in it and stopped trying to make them happy!" That's good idea!

cr*********:

Very important: “more isolated THAN THEY WANT TO BE.” Isolation itself is not the issue.

De****:

i literally don't have a single person in my life who i can lean on in a time of need, no wonder why i'm not happy

Ni******:

Such a soothing effect when he speaking... Good speech.

N*:

4 and a half years later, youtube recommended me this and to be honest, I needed this more than ever....

Jo*:

But why just study Men? Where the feminine aspect forgotten?

Do**********:

You just made me feel more lonely, since I broke up recently.

It**********:

Well loneliness is my #1 problem -_-

Si*************:

I'm going to live a quiet life, enjoying the taste of the food I eat, appreciating my family and the friends I have and all the wonderful nature around me. I want to be a pilot and retire early with a small pension and live in a small house surrounded by nature so I can spend as much time as possible with my family, friends and doing things I love, such as paddle boarding, watching movies and eating ice cream on rainy days. Family, friends, beloved activities and quality of life come first. Career and superfluous money come second. Too many have them mixed up.
Not many people seem impressed with the dreams I have for my life. But I don't care if people don't see me as successful, because the definition of success is being happy with your own life; loving what you do and how you do it.

To**********:

Thank you for this, I´m not in a good place mentally. I have been isolating myself for many years. I am 21 and this video helped me broke my isolation. I contacted a girl I like and we talked for an hour on the phone. I'm planning to meet one of my closest friends and I am seeing another person that has shared physical intimacy with me. After just watching the video, already only the thought of contacting people and opening up to them helped me gather strength and motivation.
Also I had no distinct dream job or plan for my career, I thought to study civil engineering only of logical points. I would definitely be employed and would have good pay but now I´m thinking about helping other people in similar situations. Who knows if I will go that route but even without that this was important video for me and I think I will say, that watching this video was a major turning point for me.
Once again thank you for making the world a better place.

Mi*****:

I’m 61, married for 33 years, one daughter 25 years old. Went to college and worked my whole life. Planning to retire at the end of this year. Been lucky, worked hard, lived a good life, very few regrets....hope to be around for many more years. I am no expert but I can offer my thoughts for what they’re worth: pick your relationships based on decency and character, not flash; be prepared to work hard on improving yourself (relationships and education and physical self); live within your means; invest time and money on your health, family first; things don’t last but memories do; and always be thankful. I think as you get older, friends become more important. Good luck to all in finding your own happiness.

 

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