[Youtube Review][TEDx Talks] 올바른 관계를 선택하라 | 알렉산드라 레드케이(Alexandra Redcay) | TEDxUpperEastSide

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This time, I will review the popular YouTube videos.

These days, even if it's good to watch on YouTube, sometimes people skip it or don't watch it if it's too long.

When you watch Youtube, do you scroll and read the comments first?

To save your busy time, why don't you check out the fun contents, summary, and empathy comments of popular YouTube videos first and watch YouTube?

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jodhovumkHQ

 

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Playtime Comments : [TEDx Talks] 올바른 관계를 선택하라 | 알렉산드라 레드케이(Alexandra Redcay) | TEDxUpperEastSide

or*****:

12:00 Amen to that! Once you realize this, dating becomes so easy that you might even become a player... xd

AT****************:

8:52 facts. <3
I love this video so amazing.

Fi********:

11:33 this is golden.

Ma**********************:

1:11

 

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Top Comments : [TEDx Talks] 올바른 관계를 선택하라 | 알렉산드라 레드케이(Alexandra Redcay) | TEDxUpperEastSide

Sa******************:

Compatibility. Once you understand you, you identify with is healthy for you and what is unhealthy for you.

People need these reminders and eye openers.

Re*****:

"Well you just don't know him, he's different when we're alone" was my personal favorite. That difference in his behavior that I had fallen for changed towards the end of the relationship, he made sure I knew I was no longer his priority and used manipulation tactics I had never even heard of.

An************:

I don't agree with the listen to your community bit. I was in a relationship with a guy I was having doubts about and everyone around me kept saying stay with him. He was wrong for me and I'm glad he's gone. Listen to your gut.

Ad****************:

Communicating the important things and not sweating the small stuff. Love really is blind. My problem is that I over communicate without realising it is not being reciprocated. Time to be more real about my relationships with people I chose to love.

Tu************:

She never told us to open our eyes again lol

Edit: OMG thank you so much for the likes yallI‘m not commenting for likes but it sure feels nice

AN**************:

Don't rush yourself finding the right partner, the right person will come when you least expect it. Determine what you really want, and set your standards accordingly because a man who really loves you is willing to raise himself in order to pass that standard.

Mi***************:

"People tell you who they are, but we ignore it - because we want them to be who we want them to be." - Don Draper

Ca********:

Love this talk. I'm a early 30's guy, looking for a relationship and definitely not a Peter Pan. Sure I like to have fun, which is important to me, but looking to have a life partner to have fun with (I mean fun as in smiling, traveling, and going on adventures). My favorite part of her speech was when she advises to be bold, I do this on 2nd/3rd dates, to ask those hard questions and it can really scare the wrong people off. It sucks to hear the answer you dont want to hear and it not work out, and I usually get sad about it because the search will continue, but I am hopefully it will work out for the best in the end. I have been in a 8 year relationship with the wrong woman, and the one thing I learned is to not settle, as it will just lead to trouble down the road. Online dating is rough I must say, but it can work out.

bl**********:

I think family can go wrong too because of their personal beliefs and tendency to shape you the way they are.

So*****************:

its true, sometimes when I reflect on my relationships. I discover that I ignored the red flags due to this addiction of love!!!!! thank u for the video

We***********:

The idea of needing dating approval from your friends and family after 3-5 dates is ludicrous. Only a sheep would ask permission to date the man she's drawn to. Beyond that belittling advice, I agree that we, as women, should not be afraid, either to ask the difficult questions or walk away, early in a relationship. As a wedding planner, I've seen too many women rush to the altar, all for sake of having kids before it's too late. Prioritize yourself and your plans but don't force fit a relationship just to beat the baby clock.

And again, be wise and date any man (or woman) you choose. Don't ask permission from anyone. It's your life.

Pi**********:

My relationship with my dog is pretty good. My family and friends all agree and love her almost as much as I do. Adopting her was the best decision of my life!

But in all seriousness, this was a really well done TED talk, one of the best. It totally supports the importance of not getting married until after the honeymoon period has passed and that drug like high that clouds ones judgement isn't as strong.

Sa**********:

The “I hope they like me” thing was like

Ta***************:

i wonder what’s her venus is cause this is some internalized “nice guy” syndrome bs

de****:

We accept the love we think we deserve.

Sa*********:

Thank you. 17 minutes of wisdom to save you from wasting years with the wrong person! Where were you when I was in my 20's? I wish I knew this then...

Di********:

She is fucking awesome. Great speaker, can't believe the dislikes bar. Seems so small to most people but considering how good she was and charismatic with her oration and connection to the subject matter and her audience, her relatability, I don't understand how anyone could walk away unhappy with this talk.

Pe***********:

Never cheat on someone you love. You can never recover from that. It's true. It's so nice once you find someone and build a life together. It's hard. You bet. But it's worth it.

ar*******:

I think she means know what you want and dont' compromise. She's talking about love from an intellectual standpoint.

Me******:

Thank you for the video. I've just ended my toxic relationship. I realized it because of you. I was unhappy, now I'm free and it feels good! After 6 hard years. And guess what - I was the agressor. The solution was simple - we do not fit, we got to break up. I always hear those words "run, RUN. Be Brave, BE BRAVE!". Thank you!!

Lu***:

"action conquers fear = the more we do it, the more comfortable we get with it"

hy********:

잘 보았습니다. "앎으로 가는계단", "관계와 큰 목적"을 새메시지 닷 com(.com)에서 읽어보시기를 추천합니다.
물론 거기에는 "사랑 그리고 관계"를 아주 도움이 되는 메시지도 있습니다.

HA*:

I walked away, and it broke my heart, but i had to.

Na**********:

This was amazing. Makes absolute, logical sense of the illogical: Love.

Ma****:

"Be brave enough to walk away". This is so important.

cl******:

When everyone said to “Run”, I just stood and later on, I got run over by him

Al**********:

Friendzone doesn't exist. You are just wasting time with the wrong person. ;)

ad***********:

This talk changed my life when it first came out. It made me realize I needed to stop being concerned about whether I was liked - and be concerned about whether I like him! thank you.

Ke*:

You will never get a perfect person in life. Compromising with his/her flaws can also be awarding.

ka*********:

"Be brave enough to walk away"

Be***********:

"why do we date a person who we know is historically unfaithful and a liar?" I always ask myself

ul****:

We should listen to our intuition all the time and especially in the beginning of the relationship. Listening to others is not always a good idea. People have different experiences and usually see things through the filter of those experiences. Our intuition is the best advisor and we should never ignore it.

Lo*******:

Many people have extensive lists of what qualities and traits their ideal partner has to have. If you box yourself in to a checklist you may miss out on some great matches for you. It’s almost impossible to find a perfect checklist partner, and when we think we have found it we throw all caution to the wind and disregard some not so desirable qualities. A great relationship has emotional compatibility

Em*************:

I have recently walked away from a four year relationship after coming to the conclusion that he was not the right person. Even if you care about someone or even love them, nothing you do can change who they are. If you're not fulfilled now, don't ignore your feelings and settle for less, talk to them about what you need and if nothing changed or you still feel the same, leave. This isn't a practice run, this is your life. It is so scary but it the bravest thing you can do and you will forever be proud of yourself.

bu************:

Practically everything this woman said has always been so inherently obvious to me... When I dated my first boyfriend in high school, he took me out on a date, he kissed me at school, and he hung out with me at my house.  Not before we even became "official" he said "I love you!"  (Mind you, this is a 15 year old boy.)  I couldn't say it back to him because, obviously, I didn't feel the same way.  I liked him, but I didn't like him THAT much.  All I could do is just stand there in shock, and then when he left I called my best friend.  When I told her what he said she gasped in glee and said, "OH MY GOSH I'M SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!"  For the next 4 months of the relationship I thought I was supposed to be in love with him.  Eventually I got tired of pretending. 

How was I supposed to be in love at 15/16 in such a short period of time??

I think we need to stop romanticising love - or at least we need to differentiate the difference between being "in-love" verses loving someone.  Love in its truest form isn't really that romantic.  Just because you want to kiss or hold someone doesn't mean you love them, it means that you feel sensual and affectionate attraction towards them (which is not a bad thing!).  But real love is mature and tolerant.  Real love takes time.  Real love takes caring about someone so much that you are consumed with making sure that this person is ok, even if you are furious with them. 

Ir***:

If only this advice had been available 20 years ago I'd have saved myself a lot of grief. I'd never have asked my family as they're pretty screwed up when it comes to relationships, but I have some very good friends who'd tell me the truth if they thought a prospective partner was all wrong for me. It was interesting at times how the 'six degrees of separation' eventually fed me information, unfortunately usually too late... Fortunately I figured it out for myself in the end.

The way I did it was after a lot of painful self-analysis, deciding I'd be the one to choose who I liked rather than feeling flattered by the random attention of a guy who would turn out to be a loser. So a year ago, after being single for a while, I joined a dating website and dated four guys in 2 weeks in order to get some perspective and not get hung up on making something work with Mr Redflag just to boost my self-esteem. Fwiw I discussed it all with a male colleague who I'm close to and his advice was very helpful. Two of them were decent guys but unsuitable; another was lovely but 12 years younger than me and with me not having or wanting kids I could see that running into trouble despite his protests; but the man I'm still with and adore more and more as time goes by really stood out as Mr Right. We get on really well with each other's friends and family too, which only helps to seal the deal. For the first time in my life I understand why people want to get married and it's looking like that will happen for us. We're both pretty relaxed about it and currently making progress with our plans to live under the same roof. Life is good :-)

 

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[TEDx Talks] We gathered comments about popular videos and looked at them in summary, including play time, and order of popularity.

It's a good video or channel, but if you're sad because it's too long, please leave a YouTube channel or video link and I'll post it on this blog.

 

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