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Ra*********:

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Co***************:

14:00 I wish someone did that for me and my siblings. Too bad any possible "help" which turns into a "so what do we do with this kid?" relies entirely on the kid telling them everything, haha. Right. How about instead of asking the kid if he's being abused, relying on them for you to find out, you find out your god damn self. I hated life and have had suicidal thoughts for as long as I can remember, since I was 6 years old. I never even knew how horribly I was being abused physically and especially mentally by my Schizo mother (never knew my dad). I brought up abuse 2-3 times until I was kicked out at 16, they laugh at you, tell you you're pathetic and just a panzy, make up some complete BULLSHIT lie about how horrible they had it, and make you believe you're wrong, "you don't know what abuse is."
Am I being abused officer? No, but please just go away, I'm in enough trouble already.
I'm all for what you said, but it's probably too late for me at this point. I'm just so god damn sick of life... the light at the end of my tunnel is a barrel just as the hammer hits the round. It grows more appealing ever day to the point that I see death how a normal person would envision heaven, or paradise, it's just absolute peace.
I very well may kill someone, but only me.

Ma*****:

I don't get how he says his solution is financially sound. I agree that it would be great to get the needed help to the individuals that need it early. I agree that the kind of help he is proposing would make a grand difference and save and improve lives. His passion is honest, and his desires are for the good of others.
The problem is that we don't know which forty those individuals are, that are going to become murders. We do know that there are vast demographics that are at-risk. Since we don't have an all-knowing individual to help point out exactly which individuals need the help to avoid becoming murders, it sounds like we just have to spend the money to help everyone who is at-risk. This is where the budget becomes unsustainable and too many freedoms get taken away. He even mentioned that his last suggestion would be controversial, (over-riding freedoms and rights of parents) due to the intrusive aspect of "intervention" to save children from their parents.
(15:51) He said that spending fifteen thousand would save eighty thousand. How would that work?
In order to save the eighty thousand each for those forty executed each year, you spend fifteen thousand each to nudge forty children each year. Which forty children? Would fifteen thousand multiplied by forty each year be enough to nudge ALL the children in Texas each year, and eventually eliminate all murders in Texas?
It sounds like the fifteen thousand would be a per year intervention per at-risk youth. The total number of at-risk youth in Texas each year would by many more than forty, even four hundred sounds low. To spend the fifteen thousand each for everyone considered at-risk would push the expense thru the roof way beyond the eighty thousand (times forty) per year.
He did point out several examples of attempts that are being made in various communities to help with this problem. That is the right process. Communities, institutions and individuals should be allowed to help with this problem as they are able to the extent that they can afford. Massive government programs have a long history of being not-quite the right solution.

 

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Top Comments : [TED] Lessons from death row inmates | David R. Dow

La************:

Dear Professor, I wish there were more compassionate and intelligent people like you to run for presidency.
and democracy, for that matter.

yo***********:

All of this seems to go back to the idea that it takes a community to raise a child.

co************:

So, essentially, preventive care is more economically sound than reactive care for not just physical illness, but also mental illness?  Gee, who would have thought?

WJ*****:

The Eastern perspective is that everything is the consequence of everything that came before it, all coming together to create this moment. You can't tease out the causes of things, because they are infinite in time and space. Some call it karma, which just comes from the Sanskrit word for action, implying that every action has a reaction. The Western perspective is that everyone is personally responsible for their actions, but we all know that many people are swept up in events that are beyond their control and that have unavoidable tragic consequences for them and others. So, it's the police vs. the shrinks in court!

Te**********:

As a society our most important resource is children.

N1**:

The problem is we are reactive.  Police, Children and Youth, and many other organizations that get involved after it is to late.  after the incident occurs and not before it happens.

Ch****************************************:

It's like, the costs for the government (for same impact) are:
Preventive measures = $1
Consequences of not taking preventive measures = $10
Which should the government take...

Nu*******:

Remember, a convict is not pure evil, a convict is someone who got themselves into a bad situation and then reacted poorly.

Th***********:

I find it frustrating that we live in a society that does little to nothing for those who suffer. Let's be 100% honest with ourselves, the average American doesn't help the poor, adopt children from orphanages, or lose any sleep knowing people in this country are in dire need of help. We all have an "everyone for themselves" mentality of living. The only time we do interact or show any concern regarding other people is when they do something negative that affects us. If we were to realize that most criminals crop out of a very similar hot beaker, composed of a mixture of lethal ingredients:
* abusive families
* mental health issues
* violent environment
* limited opportunities
* no guidance/ wrong guidance, etc... it would be a lot easier to see that it's a better idea to just help people in need first before they grow up to become a threat.

tr********:

Society creates then condemns. When will the penny drop to realise nurturance with care and love goes a very long way.

Mo************:

Well he certainly has the right idea, partially, its not just about preventing this, changes need to be made in society in order for these situations to not even exist in the 1st place, but then again this might be impossible since everyone is diferent therefore we wont reach a mutual understanding so problems will still arise. But im in favor of death penalty, there are SOME ppl that dont really deserve the air they breath, and just spending a shit load of years on jail eating our taxes.

As**:

But if we intervene and care for our kids early on, how will we get all those prisons filled?

Al**************:

I thought I was the only child whose mom tried to kill her own 6 year old baby
Then again when I was 14 years old. I am happy that I didn't murder anybody although I still seek justice.

si*************:

It's people whos minds and hearts are in the right place like this,
that "nudge" us all to re-examine  important topics that affect us all,
I'm in complete agreement with his view and tactics,... focusing on the
common denominators was simple and very effective, and very worth our time to consider and put into practice, the sooner the better, is what I say too,
because negroes, even though they are soul-less, can be trained to have a positive
effect on society, ...watching this inspiring video convinced me of that.

LN****:

"this is rocket science". I just love that. He just took the wind out of the entire debate, by refusing to even humor it in the face of reality. Early intervention isn't reductionist. It's very far from black and white too. It's complicated and messy and we are just going to have to deal.

na**********:

I saw the video and I thought "Oh, Eminem doing statistics lol" and then I read the title...

An*************:

Moral of this speach: It is better to build boys than to mend men.

Kl*****:

That man is apsolutely right. I cant think of anything that goes against his ideas and statements. Impressive man.

Sa*************:

This is what I'm talking about. Too many political issues focus on fighting the fire rather than preventing it in the first place. We need to start looking toward the source.

Mi***********:

This is one of the best TED talks I've ever heard. Further, in my opinion, there has never been a more important topic.

St***********:

i think this talk was so well done, so organizes and easy to understand. I really like that he brought up this conversation to the world so we can finally start to make a change

Vi***********:

great man- would like to meet him one day

Mi******:

Being born is already a death penalty

Pa***:

I really enjoyed your talk.  I am sorry to hear about Will, though I heard story like this too many times. My situation is very much like Will.  I had a crazy mother whom I barely knew.  She used to chased me with a knife, I would ran to the bathroom and hide.  There are many unspeakable things she done to me. I have always wondered why I did not grow up committing crimes like many in my situation and ended up in prison.  In stead I’ve always want to be a public defender, so I can help young juveniles.  I study and watch crime documentary’s, trying understand why I am the way I am.  My conclusion is LOVE.  I was fortunate to have my grandparents who loves me and raised me for the first 12 years of my life until I met my mother.  I believe if Will had love in his life, he will not be where he was.  I certainly do not believe in death penalty and I believe Will should not have been executed.  There are too many WILLS in our society that are created by unfit, dysfunctional and irrsponsible parents.  I hope your talk and your continuing work with death row inmates will help effect some changes.  “Wanted Children Would Make a World a Better Place” Thank you David.  By the way, I am a chinese female.  

Ma*********:

Great talk! This guy should be in charge of where my taxes go, I'd be a lot happier. :)

oh***:

I'm a bit disappointed, i thought he was going to be talking about eye opening experiences he's had talking to death row inmates :/

Sm****:

This is so sad. When I hear about criminals who got started as kids, I feel so bad for them. I've made incredibly stupid decisions for pretty much all of the 21 years that I've been alive, and  to think that some of these kids had to make life and death decisions when they were only 7? Like "join a gang or take my chances on the street". I couldn't expect little kids faced with such decisions to make good informed decisions when they have such little power over their destiny. And since they have such a bad start, the rest of of their life will probably come to reflect that 

2:

Criminals are not born; criminals are made.

Do************:

There's a way to find those kids.

In Australia, we have the KID'S HELP LINE. It's a service for children to call when they need help, when they know they're being abused.

It's under funded & 50,000 calls go unanswered.

ga********:

The lighting and his outfit makes him look like a hologram of an older dead Eminem doing one last concert just like 2pak.

WW**:

Anyway, I like the way he talks, loud and clear.

Wo*************:

Wills story is 100% the binding of Isaac story

fl*********:

We can make a difference in everyday life.
I recently read "Whoever Hunts Monsters" by Robert Ressler and I couldn't help notice that my own story was somewhat darker than many of the serial killers he described. A middle child of a schizophrenic mother and an alcoholic father, I was at gunpoint the first time at age 13 when the alcoholic stepmother who repeatedly threatened to butcher me as I slept ran me out of the house at shotgun point on Christmas eve. So it went until I raised myself into my mid teens, studied radio electronics at the public library and earned an FCC Radiotelephone license, then found a job that used my talents.
That wasn't the final chapter; severe PTSD threatened my life - every morning for 8 years I decided whether to try another day or to end my life in exceptionally violent ways that would leave my body hard to identify. I was completely withdrawn and it took an enormous effort just to find the woman who became my wife of 46 years so far, and to open my heart just enough for the first time ever.
Reading Resseler's book, I realized how much the childhoods of the serial killers he had interviewed was like my own. There was a difference, though: I had male role models from time to time. My 7th grade teacher never knew how much I admired his serenity and poise, and his intelligent views on any subject at all. My stepmother's grown son, who had suffered from her alcoholic rages and overcame them, took me in for Christmas and for a week afterward. I was disoriented in their normal home, but I saw it was an alternative even if I didn't understand it. The next year my Algebra teacher sometimes struck up conversations with me.
Even to me those influences seem so small, so almost trivial. It was still a long, incredibly hard slog out of a dark place that was almost all I knew, with only a hint of what I should do. The emotional damage was something I would not understand until I turned 40, and even then it was still overwhelming. For all that, just a relative handful of hours by a few people who lived in a brighter world were enough. Without them, I guarantee I would not be around to write this.

Wa***********:

Importance of a
Loving Father



2016-01-11


This past Saturday, I attended a Christian Men’s
Fellowship Breakfast in Gravenhurst. The speaker was a young pastor who had
spent time in the Canadian Army. He had a powerful testimony about the Lord
saving his life in Afghanistan. One fact stood out for me in his testimony. He
shared that he had been raised by his mother and there was no father figure in
his life. As a result he experienced emotional problems, using drugs and
alcohol to cope with life. At one point he was arrested and facing jail time,
he told the judge that if released, he would join the army. The judge allowed
him to do that.


When he enlisted in the army, he was assigned to the
infantry. He was then sent to Iraq once and to Afghanistan twice. He said that
his platoon was almost full of angry young men who had not had a father figure
in their lives. He spoke about their strong aggression when facing the enemy,
and their propensity to fight with little provocation.


I immediately connected that with the fact that 90% of
all inmates in the federal prison system come from fatherless homes or homes
where they wished the father had been absent. Angry young men. In a Bible study
at a federal institute last week, I met a man who had become a Christian in
prison, as a result of a man befriending him and mentoring him in the faith. He
said, “You would not wanted to have know me before I became a Christian. When I
was transferred from the Halifax area to a Maximum Institute in Quebec, I had
three charges the first day I arrived, two for assaulting inmates and the third
for stabbing an inmate”. He volunteered this information after we had been
discussing the importance of a father in a child’s life. He also had been
raised in a single parent family.   

Focus on the Family published a book, some years ago,
about the father’s role in a child’s life. In it, they described an experiment
that was made with a buffalo herd. They removed all the mature bulls from the
herd and then observed, that as a result of their absence, the young bulls
started attacking each other and the females in the herd. When the mature bulls
where re-introduced, the aggression dropped significantly.


Children, without a father figure, will experience
hidden emotional wounds. When we see unhealthy behaviour, we should check to
see what their family life was like. I recently had an opportunity to interact
with a young man, who was exhibiting these types of behaviour. He was in denial
and when asked if there was anyone he needed to forgive, he said “No one”. Then
I asked him about his relationship with his mother. He said that his
relationship with her was a little strained, but the relationship was good. I
knew that his biological father had not been a significant part of the family
and so I asked him about his relationship with his father. You would have
thought I had lit the fuse to a bomb. He suddenly yelled out, “That piece of
(expletives)!” Further conversation revealed that he knew who his father was
and really desired to have a relationship, but the father, who in turn was an
alcoholic raised in a single parent home, would once in a while agree to meet,
only to cancel the meeting or not be there when the child showed up. One of
those meetings was for the young man to spend Christmas Day with his father,
only to have it cancelled Christmas morning.  

I see many young single mothers who are raising
children on their own. One woman I know has 4 children by different fathers.
All the fathers have anger issues and came from fatherless or dysfunctional
homes. My advice to single women looking to build a relationship with a man is,
find out about his family. If there was no father figure, keep looking. That
young man needs to receive Christian counselling to heal his emotional wounds,
before he can build a mature relationship.

AD********:

Family classes are a good thing in the first few years of school. The school / teachers recommend it for kids that make or seem to be in trouble. They meet once a week for the whole school day, kids, their parents, a special teacher and a social worker, and talk about goals to set and reach for the kids, help with homework, and work on the regular curriculum. The systems of reward and punishment are developed by the kids and parents themselves. And they learn to work together, which is the most important part.
It's an amazingly efficient concept. I've seen it work on countless hard cases and wonder why it ain't part of any school yet. Of it mightn't have helped Will with his mother, but it might have done loads of good for him and his brother.

 

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