[Youtube Review][TED] I don't want children -- stop telling me I'll change my mind | Christen Reighter

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Summary Comments : [TED] I don't want children -- stop telling me I'll change my mind | Christen Reighter

Ko*******:

I don't want to have children, because:
1. I have tokophobia.
2. It is too much responsibility for me.
3. I prefer a lonely life or myself and only a partner.
4. Honestly I'm thinking about hysteroctomy.

 

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Top Comments : [TED] I don't want children -- stop telling me I'll change my mind | Christen Reighter

MM************:

i am glad I came across this, i am 25 and have been explaining why i dont want kids . i aint explaining no more.

Hu*********:

I don't want children because I wouldn't have the patient for it. Simple as that. I'm a very impatient person, children require a lot of patient. I've worked with children. Frick that.

Sa************:

I love how confident and empowered she is. The way she carries herself and speaks is truly inspiring to me.

Ro******:

I'm 21 years old. I love children but I can't picture myself getting married, being pregnant and raising a child. I think childhood trauma brought me to this. But yeah! I don't feel sad whenever I think that I probably won't want a child when I get older.

wi***********:

"Selfish" is when you put yourself first and fail in your duties and obligations towards others in consequence. No such duty or obligation exists towards children that don't exist.

he***********:

Why have kids when you can have a dog.

Be******:

If a person can't mentally or financially support a child they shouldn't have an unwanted child just to please people

ba**************:

It’s not just women. Men get it as well. I even get it from some of my friends. They never have an answer when I ask “ If having a wife and kids are so great, why are you always coming over to my house and complaining about your wife and kids? “

Am********:

woman doesn't want kids*. society: you will change your mind *woman wants kids society: Kids will mess up your career

Da********************:

I’m pregnant and I love this talk. Having children or not is a personal decision and it should be respected. No one should be judged by their personal choice.

Co****************:

Not all people deserve kids, nor change for the better for having them. Like the ones who abuse their children in many ways, destroying their souls and their future. It's better not having them if you really feel you can't be a good parent, than being abusive mother or father. Now, that would be soul crushing.

Me****:

This is such a sensitive subject for me. I am in my mid-40’s and married for almost 20 yrs. My husband and I never wanted kids and feel quite frankly that we would not be good parents. When a person I just met asks me if I have kids, they always seem to have a disappointed look when I tell them I do not.
My mother was literally on her deathbed when she said that HER greatest regret in life was that I didn’t have children. She never understood my decision. SMH

H*:

i think its better not to have kids than to bring kids into this world unloved and unprotected.

Be*************:

Dear Society: women are not obligated to live up to your standards.

ma*********:

if a man says he doesn't want children, literally no one cares, ppl say they understand, but when a woman says it, it's always "oh, you're gonna change your mind" no, i won't. I have not for 13 years. I do not wish to have children and even if i change my mind, it is my problem, not yours.

aS***:

I'm 20 and don't want kids EVER and it's frustrating having to explain why and being told "oh you're too young to make that decision now" or "you'll change your mind " I owe nobody an explanation

Wh***********:

Ngl when someone says who’s going to take care of you when you’re older to their daughter/son, sometimes it kinda shows the kid why they were born in the first place. Damn.

L*:

This is such a private question they tend to ask us this in school all the time and honestly I feel angry about this because it’s my body and my soul if I don’t feel having kids than it’s my choice. I should be able to what I want without get judged by someone else.

yo*******:

I have never placed having kids as my top priority, my top priority has always been and always will be my career, then my friends and family, tbh I don't even wanna get married.......but no one seems to get that

xi*****:

I am 53, childfree and I never wanted to have children of my own..I never regretted it, follow you own heart!

Eu******:

It never ends. Have one and you'll soon be questioned as to when you're having the second one.

ma*******:

As a guy, at age of 30, I announced to my parents to be ready to the eventuality that I might not have children. My mother got sad a bit but understood. My father who was already pushing me didn't stop at this moment. He didn't pushed a lot, but enough to make me feel incomfortable, poking me at every occasion. Slowly over time he stopped. My brothers have plenty of kid, the parents and grandparents are happy. At 35 I'm not completely sure if I want children or not, but I'm more comfortable with the idea of not having kids than having.

Pa*******:

Me: I don't want to have kids.
Friend: no problem you can adopt one! There are so many kids needing a home.
Me: I don't want to have kids in general coming from me or someone else....I am already a mother of 1 dog and 1 cat , they are both adopted, I did my part.
End of conversation.....

Ch***********:

I can barely support myself, how does society expect me to support another person lol?

JX**:

Sad how society cares more about you having kids rather than taking care of kids.

Ar**********:

I’m a teen, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have most of my life planned out. I know what college I want to go to, what job I want to peruse, and whether I want a husband or not. When I tell my parents I don’t want to have kids, they say that I should. They say that it’s the best thing I can do for myself, and a great thing that comes into my life. The truth is, I love kids I love talking and and interacting with them, but that doesn’t mean that I want to have some in the future. Women who do, aren’t questioned. However, when I tell people I don’t, I get lectured for so long on how I’m making a terrible mistake. How can me, deciding my own path, be the one destroying my life. I hate how society in a way forces women who don’t want this shun and shame them. I’m not doing anything wrong choosing how I want to live my life.

wi***********:

Another terrible thing people say in regards to children is when a woman says she would rather adopt than birth them: "It isn't the same. You'll never love it as much as you do your own."

Mi*************:

I always tell ppl, I'd rather regret not having kids than regret having kids.

Ge**********:

my aunt looks after me and my 2 sisters sometimes. she tried for children for SO LONG when she was young, and couldn't get pregnant. after looking after us just a few times, she told us she's glad she failed when trying for kids because she doesn't believe she could handle motherhood
LOL

Ja************:

I’m 19 Nd I firgured out I didn’t want kids since I was a kid I’m happy that I’m not alone Nd people understand that not everyone wants kids or want to get married I just wanna make money and travel smh society and there bullshit standards of woman need to have kids is crap smh

Mi*************:

If at the end of a first date the women says: "I dont want kids, and I dont want to get married. Ever." I would simply smile and say "so when do you want to meet again?"

Ch********:

It’s truly liberating listening to this.I didn’t realize how really conditioned we are as young girls/ladies to procreate and how of such importance the society makes it to be , such that it’s weird when I want otherwise. It is okay to not want children and not have to explain it; that seemed like such a far fetched idea.... this has opened my eyes.

Ma***:

I can relate to this in the sense that I, too, have always had the expectations of my family placed on me. “WHEN you get married,” as if that should be a goal, rather than an option.

So***********:

“Having children is an extension of motherhood, not the definition” well said
It’s insane to me that a man’s entire identity can be independent from having children and being married, but a woman is looked at as forgoing her true purpose in life if she decides not to have biological children. She is viewed as incomplete when a man would never be viewed that way. He is measured by his contributions, ideas and work. Why can’t we treat women, who are equally human individuals to the same choice in her life’s purpose?

Sh***********:

Will be 66 shortly. Never wanted kids. Still don't.

Ke****:

I sometimes casually (in form of humor) let my parents know that I don't want biological children in the future. And they always hit me with "who would take care of you when you're older?"
Which is so wrong in so many levels. Children are not just retirement plans.

Re****************:

I am 39 years old. I waited until age 32 to get married and was told “I thought you’d never get married, but I guess I was wrong.” Within one week, I was berated by numerous people wanting to know when we were going to get pregnant. When I told them that the answer was never, people pushed their beliefs onto me rather than accept my decision. I was called an a$$hole because I finally had to put my foot down and tell people to shut up because it was none of their business and that their way of thought was not the same as mine. I’m thankful for being able to see this and acknowledge that I’m not the only one still going through this, even after seven years of marriage. I was recently informed that there is a high probability that I am also infertile. My OBGYN had the audacity to say “We can definitely work on solving that problem for you.” My reply was “What exactly makes you think that I want to solve this so-called problem that you say I have? I do not want children, nor have I ever so no, we will not be working on that.” He said “Well, what about your husband? Doesn’t he want kids?” Do you honestly think I’d be married if he wanted them and I didn’t? NOPE. I told the doctor that it’s my body and no one besides myself will make those decisions. I also told him not to bring it up again. He tried to say something else and I told him that it was none of his business and to drop it immediately because he was not going to challenge my rights to do as I want with my body.

An*******:

As a guy, I feel so disgusted and scared for women, purely based on such stories as these, which I hear all too often. From not being able to walk alone at night, to not being paid the same as men, to being stigmatised for abstaining from motherhood, all of these things highlight how fucked up society is. It is a woman’s right to decide what she wants for her body and her mind, and those things should be solely dependant on her whim. I can’t believe that these are even up for debate in our supposedly modern society.

Me*******:

Society cares more about you having kids than taking care of kids. There are so many ppl who abuse their children bcs they r not ready of having them. Why do the society doesn't let women decided their own life of having a child or not? Society keeps asking a married woman 'when will you're going to have a child?'. Do u think people are married just to make a child? Oh c'mon. I think it's better if they have a child when they were ready. Not having a child just bcs the society wants it and then abuse their child bcs they felt like every single bad thing that happens in their life is happen bcs of their child. And one more thing, children are not an investment.

 

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